How to Cope With a Lack of Sex in a Relationship
How to Cope With a Lack of Sex in a Relationship
Many long-term couples will tell you that dry spells are quite common in relationships when it comes to sex and intimacy. It’s normal for sexual interaction frequency to decrease over time, but concern arises if it becomes non-existent. Couples these days are looking for other ways to enhance their sexual lives and spice up their relationships. One good example that’s working out for many is trying out sex toys like the clitoral stimulator or dildos for ladies and prostate massagers for men. Statistics indicate that around 30-40% of couples who are in long-term relationships have sexless relationships. So, what can you do to save your relationship?
5 Ways to Cope
There isn’t a specific number or a hard rule about how often couples should have sex but there are ways you can cope.
- Be Patient
If sex is a deal-breaker for you, it is critical that the other partner is patient as you get to the bottom of the situation and uncover the reason behind the block. Some partners immediately choose to suggest an open relationship, which can lead to a lot of trust issues. Take the time and assess what your partner is going through before settling on a solution.
- Select a Good Time to Have the Conversation
There are many reasons why the number of times you have sex reduces, from illnesses to low body confidence, menopause, age, low libido, and stress, among others. Sex life is a sensitive matter, and bringing it up can pose a challenge. Therefore, you must pick the right time to have that conversation, preferably when you are both relaxed, and there are fewer chances of being interrupted. We would also advise against bringing it up when both of you are in bed trying to have sex or when you are frustrated or angry.
- Be Honest With Each Other
Perhaps the problem lies with both of you. Are you both putting in an equal amount of effort or taking each other for granted? Do you practice proper hygiene and take care of your overall appearance by doing the little things like brushing your teeth and doing your hair? We are not pushing for you to look like Gigi Hadid or Tom Hardy. However, if you don’t put effort into your body to look attractive for yourself, it won’t be easy for other people to like you too. It might be time for you to bring back the charm your partner once fell for. So take the time to groom and care for yourself, and your partner will appreciate it.
- Baby Steps
If you are looking to reintroduce intimacy, we recommend doing it bit by bit with something as little as giving each other pecks here and there or holding hands. This can then slowly graduate to cuddling, massages, intimate touching, or lingering kissing. You must keep going all the way to full sexual intercourse until both of you are comfortable with it.
The Takeaway
During the entire process of reintroducing sexual intimacy, you need to constantly remind and reassure yourself that you are not alone. Lower sex drive is common in couples that have been together for quite some time. All you need to do is step back and figure out a way to get back into rhythm or align with what is best for both of you.
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